Oh Dana. it's hard for me to fathom your journey. I met my wife at the age of 29. She 26. We both had traveled the world and had many relationships. We met randomly , at a party, one night w/ common friends, in VT. Traveled to BC Canada the next morning and married 2 months later. I think for us it was the simple fact that we loved and were loved. BUT to love was first. 3 children countless adventures and then she croaked at 60. I experienced real love and my wish is you will too. (Don't get me wrong.. there are compromises along the way). Regards Al Karnas (and that's not AI)
I'm the same guy a few weeks ago that was telling you about your daughters college search and the parallel with my son's . Artist / Engineer brain. He went to Syr U for industrial design. (with lots of arts combined). I look forward to you daughter's choice. Exciting time. Rock On. Al (not AI). love your ongoing broadcasts.
Oh yes--I remember you! Crazy how our lives have so many parallels. I'm so glad you enjoy the lives! Are you referring to The Daily Whatever Show, or the I Write Out Loud podcasts?
Dating in your 50s is wild!! After ending a 26 year marriage, I found myself on Bumble and, WOW, shit got weird fast!! I found myself lowering the age bar, just because they seemed to "know better," no unsolicited images or weird shit, and the next thing I know I am enjoying the company of 35 year olds... I mean, at least they can keep up 😆
Both ...and Lawrence's show's as well. A world I wasn't aware of, but I see the challenges in both of your lives. And such long friends. NOW THAT is what turns the clock in the right direction. Push on.
I think he needed to be apart from you to make her ex happy, or maybe they reconnected because of their new closeness. Who can really know based on some written messages? And this goes to my second thought about modern dating. You use too many written words and too few talking words, face-to-face. Words in black and white are very ambiguous; they can be read differently depending on who reads, and that's magic in literature, but in romantic relationships, it can be very messy.
If you want to have a good reading of a person, you need to see their face and listen to their voice at the same time. Don't try to read intentions or feelings in isolated text messages. Even a bad punctuation can destroy relationships.
That was ingenious to us Chatgpt to analyze the patterns. I use it for dream interpretation. I am going through an integration process right now and my dreams are really vivid and full of context. I relate to the hope filling in the unease. I used to fall deeply in love and then I would find that I couldn’t keep subjugating myself for the relationship and I would leave cleanly.
I don’t like dating but I did sometimes like relationships. If I were to enter the dating pool again, your writing would be informative for that. I feel a lot of what you write and it helps realize some of my own pitfalls back when I did date.
I get it now. Reading this piece helped me understand your interest in leveraging AI. You are a highly data-driven creature. And in some of the relationship pursuits I've had when I was younger... I can absolutely see how one can second-guess one's self through such interactions.
I do like how you are guarded, and very singular-purposed when you approach and leverage AI. That is a very commendable habit. And a habit that I wish more people had the discipline for. AI is a tool. And just as a hammer can bust open a thumb if used carelessly... so can AI.
I am cheering for you, Dana. I have hope that you will find your heart's match. Until that moment, revel in the love of community, writing, and your friendships. ❤️
¨Those miles between us were more situational than emotional. It wasn’t that he didn’t care. It was that care wasn’t enough. His life simply couldn’t sustain us.¨
The way I read it, he was taking care of his terminally il ex-wife, and rather obviously he was still in love with her, and watching her dying was doing a number on him. As you say, it´s situational, but I´d just say the dude had no room to spare - the situation rendered you as effectively ´the other woman´. 😬
I get it - if you bail out before this, you look (and feel?) like a bad person, and if you stay... are you waiting for her to kick it? ☹️ Not a good situation to be in. Really really lousy, actually.
Oh Dana. it's hard for me to fathom your journey. I met my wife at the age of 29. She 26. We both had traveled the world and had many relationships. We met randomly , at a party, one night w/ common friends, in VT. Traveled to BC Canada the next morning and married 2 months later. I think for us it was the simple fact that we loved and were loved. BUT to love was first. 3 children countless adventures and then she croaked at 60. I experienced real love and my wish is you will too. (Don't get me wrong.. there are compromises along the way). Regards Al Karnas (and that's not AI)
Oh Allan, thanks so much for your sweet comment. I’m so glad you knew such love, and so sorry you lost her so young.
I'm the same guy a few weeks ago that was telling you about your daughters college search and the parallel with my son's . Artist / Engineer brain. He went to Syr U for industrial design. (with lots of arts combined). I look forward to you daughter's choice. Exciting time. Rock On. Al (not AI). love your ongoing broadcasts.
Oh yes--I remember you! Crazy how our lives have so many parallels. I'm so glad you enjoy the lives! Are you referring to The Daily Whatever Show, or the I Write Out Loud podcasts?
Keep on loving yourself to find love in others💜
Girl, always. I’m easy to love. The men I choose, not so much.
That was very interesting. You explained so well I could feel what you were saying.
This is such a hard journey.
I relate.
I’m so glad that you are finding clarity & swathes of truth & glimpses of what could be.
In all of it, you are perfection & absolutely enough. ❤️
Dating in your 50s is wild!! After ending a 26 year marriage, I found myself on Bumble and, WOW, shit got weird fast!! I found myself lowering the age bar, just because they seemed to "know better," no unsolicited images or weird shit, and the next thing I know I am enjoying the company of 35 year olds... I mean, at least they can keep up 😆
Oooh la la lady, get after it!
Both ...and Lawrence's show's as well. A world I wasn't aware of, but I see the challenges in both of your lives. And such long friends. NOW THAT is what turns the clock in the right direction. Push on.
We will! 💜
I think he needed to be apart from you to make her ex happy, or maybe they reconnected because of their new closeness. Who can really know based on some written messages? And this goes to my second thought about modern dating. You use too many written words and too few talking words, face-to-face. Words in black and white are very ambiguous; they can be read differently depending on who reads, and that's magic in literature, but in romantic relationships, it can be very messy.
If you want to have a good reading of a person, you need to see their face and listen to their voice at the same time. Don't try to read intentions or feelings in isolated text messages. Even a bad punctuation can destroy relationships.
Yeah, and with GenX dating we have our families and other obligations so our in-person time is so limited. It’s a crazy conundrum.
That was ingenious to us Chatgpt to analyze the patterns. I use it for dream interpretation. I am going through an integration process right now and my dreams are really vivid and full of context. I relate to the hope filling in the unease. I used to fall deeply in love and then I would find that I couldn’t keep subjugating myself for the relationship and I would leave cleanly.
I don’t like dating but I did sometimes like relationships. If I were to enter the dating pool again, your writing would be informative for that. I feel a lot of what you write and it helps realize some of my own pitfalls back when I did date.
I get it now. Reading this piece helped me understand your interest in leveraging AI. You are a highly data-driven creature. And in some of the relationship pursuits I've had when I was younger... I can absolutely see how one can second-guess one's self through such interactions.
I do like how you are guarded, and very singular-purposed when you approach and leverage AI. That is a very commendable habit. And a habit that I wish more people had the discipline for. AI is a tool. And just as a hammer can bust open a thumb if used carelessly... so can AI.
I am cheering for you, Dana. I have hope that you will find your heart's match. Until that moment, revel in the love of community, writing, and your friendships. ❤️
¨Those miles between us were more situational than emotional. It wasn’t that he didn’t care. It was that care wasn’t enough. His life simply couldn’t sustain us.¨
The way I read it, he was taking care of his terminally il ex-wife, and rather obviously he was still in love with her, and watching her dying was doing a number on him. As you say, it´s situational, but I´d just say the dude had no room to spare - the situation rendered you as effectively ´the other woman´. 😬
I get it - if you bail out before this, you look (and feel?) like a bad person, and if you stay... are you waiting for her to kick it? ☹️ Not a good situation to be in. Really really lousy, actually.
I´m sorry. 💜
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