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Wendy Parker's avatar

Sweet friend, you never know until you try and your brave steps to 'know' will lead you there. I have no doubt. I'm enjoying this tale so very much and I'm rooting for YOU!!

Dana DuBois's avatar

THANK YOU, Wendy! That means so much.

Lynn's avatar

lol, I’m talking to a widower a lot for the past three days and the last two hours

Lynn's avatar

Not funny Dana Dubois I blame you for Making Dating Sound Great Again

Dana DuBois's avatar

Am I?? That’s surprising to me… I’d think you’d be running away, screaming! 😏

Lynn's avatar

lol it’s your delivery I guess, you are a gifted storyteller

Dana DuBois's avatar

Thank you. That praise means the world to me. 💜

Dana DuBois's avatar

I've been spending a good deal of time talking to one of those as well, my friend. :)

Nick G, A Dude On The Couch's avatar

I'm coming into this piece after hanging in your chat while you talked about it.

I shared the link and wanted to read it with my own eyes.

People, as an interface, give away so many wrong inclinations.

It got me thinking about my personal experiences on first dates, when I started on-line dating.

I started to feel that the person who I was expected to be never manifested because I never met him and had no idea who was being longed for, but it was certainly not me.

I had dates that immediately had that physical touch, where they would fold into my hold and press their ear into my chest as if we'd been forever and I'd wonder to myself, "Where did she go to get that?"

I had dates who were jaded in the sense that my presence was beaten by the imagined rejection that they manifested and projected in sharp barbs and snark.

Before I start a whole article in the comments of a great piece, let me quote Pete, of Pete's Restaurant, in Muppets Take Manhattan, "Peoples is peoples. No is buildings. Is tomatoes, huh? Is peoples, is dancing, is music, is potatoes. So, peoples is peoples. Okay?"

Lynette's avatar

Yes we have likely all had the “Goldie locks” experiences. Note no more outside dates until spring.

Dana DuBois's avatar

Oh NOW you tell me???!?! ;)

Lynette's avatar

lol yes often hindsight is my wisdom

🇨🇦 Natalie Woodn’t 🇨🇦's avatar

Oh. I thought this was the one. I grew up with Victor the poodle so thought that was a good omen. Too bad….

Dana DuBois's avatar

Yeah... not by miles, sadly. Just you wait--this story takes a turn for the ick before things get better...

🇨🇦 Natalie Woodn’t 🇨🇦's avatar

Spurts and sparks. I get it. I found my best friend after a few failed attempts. Hope you have too. Anticipation…

Lynn's avatar

I don’t send doodles to just anyone

Dana DuBois's avatar

Right?? Kira was involved! Of course, she loves everyone, so she's not a great judge.

Joan St C.'s avatar

I’m glad you have the “let’s keep going” spirit. I think I would have been less patient than you were in that position. I probably would have said “I’m fucking freezing let’s go to my place” then who knows what would happen. I would never go out with someone if I didn’t want to sleep with him. Yeah, I am not patient.

Dana DuBois's avatar

Hah! Well, I'd never met him before, so I certainly wasn't ready to sleep with him. I'm a bit demisexual, ya know!

Joan St C.'s avatar

I wasn’t sure if I had put that last thought in my comment. You have a way of letting me feel safe to say things that are maybe better kept to myself.

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Laura Warner's avatar

Just woke up… will attempt this again…Entertaining and hilarious… good luck and carry on. 🙏🏼💓